You’ve had your first baby, and if you put aside all the hard work you’ve had to put in. All the money in diapers, and formula, it’s the most magical thing in life. To watch a part of you grow out like another branch on a tree.

But what happens to women who aren’t capable of having a child of their own? There are different ways to conceive a child when a woman is infertile. Egg donors, fertility treatments, maybe a surrogate mother. However, many find it easy to just adopt a child, and raise them as their own.

“Take a minute to put yourself in the shoes of a sister or friend coming from a fertility clinic,”  New York Times writer Pamela Mahoney Tsigdinos says. “Learning that a medical condition or, more confounding still, an unexplained biological mystery makes her odds of conceiving unlikely.”

Adopting a child has its requirements, and may be difficult for some. However, for those who meet the standards, have the privilege of raising a child as their own.

Although the child may not be yours biologically, they’re still a child who deserves just as much love as a biological child. To think that some are not receiving that kind of parental love and affection, isn’t right for the child.

There are many cases of sexual abuse, verbal abuse, and/or physical abuse with adopted children. For example, 40-year-old man Kenneth H. Brandt adopted two young boys, and one pre-adoptive. He raped the three boys and said he allowed two other men to sexually abuse one of the boys.

‘‘I always wanted to protect kids,’’ he said during one of two interviews at the Miami County Jail. ‘‘Somewhere along the line, things went wrong.’’

63,000 children a year are victims of sexual abuse. Out of 1,000 sexual assaults, only 310 are reported. With the more rules there are to being able to adopt a child, perhaps there would be less cases of sexual abuse.

There should be more regulations to be able to adopt a child, to prevent things from going wrong. Although there is a decent amount of rules set in place for parents who’d like to adopt, there should be more to make sure these children are getting the love they need, rather than getting horrible and traumatizing memories of their childhood.

There are things that CPS (Child Protective Services) can do to help at least try preventing abuse cases with adoptive children. There can be tests done for parents trying to adopt, to assure they don’t mean any harm to the child. And although that may not prove to CPS or foster homes if the parent is capable of taking care of the child, it’s at least a step forward.